Monday, April 6, 2020

Quiet Moments Out

So, we all are staying inside our homes even in Idaho. My big gym is open to ten people at a time. Put your name on list and we can connect...  or you can head to hills to exercise or go to drive through coffee.

It is a good idea for all of us to get out of our homes while complying with health rules. Somehow being outside on a spring day can lift our spirits. The sky is still up there. The big cumulus clouds are beautiful to behold as they change shapes and colors.


The ducks still swim on the pond and chase each other. We can find moments like these in each day. The family can take a hike together and weather permitting find a spot for a picnic. PICNICS are just one of my favorite things. So, I may not be hiking up Mt. Everest but I can take a refreshing walk and get out my picnic LUNCH and EAT it quietly and deeply relax.

Getting ourselves in balance requires meditation. "Be well balanced."  Can we practice this today and feel peace and quiet come into our hearts?

Friday, March 27, 2020

The Red Box

My friend, Amy's grandparents lived in a big farmhouse in small town in Indiana, that nobody would know it's name. I always thought the farmhouse was scary.

She invited me to sleep over there when we were in junior high. This was a surprise because she never talked much about where she lived. She was there for a few years with her mother and something have happened to her Dad.
Amy was cute, smart and quiet. All the things I was not. I was awkward, not so smart and sometimes people told me I talked too much. Maybe I still do. 

Now I am grown up, I drive a rental car with a GPS. I found myself getting lost twice and not quite trusting the map on the dashboard. I stopped at a gas station to get redirected by an attendant who looks like he might still be in elementary school. No help there. Fortified, I ordered a super large soft drink, donuts in plastic bag and candy. I am on the way to Amy's.


As I munch and sang an old song, I remembered the sleepover. My parents dropped me off looking slightly concerned by the remote old farmhouse. "Don't worry. All is fine." I took my gear and gave a grand wave from the porch almost falling off in my eagerness to get rid of them.

Of course they stayed until the door opened with a big creeking noise and I tried to turn and get away but a calloused hand caught my shoulder and dragged me inside.

This was Amy's Granddad and he was big and scary. (I told you I talked too much) but when he was dragging me I couldn't even say, "where's Amy?"

As it turned out, she was by the fire with her grandmother. Grandmother Tess. This story is about her and her Red Box. Of course I didn't see it that night. Grandma Tess had cookies and not chocolate for us after a fried chicken dinner. Then we went up to Amy's room and did important things like telling secrets to each other. Talking about teachers and jumping up and down on the twin beds.

Grandma Tess must have heard us because she just opened the door and put her finger to her lip. We got to bed snuggling under the coverlets filled with chicken feathers. 

So now here I was almost at the farmhouse. Why was I here? Simple because my friend, Amy texted me to tell me her grandmother had died and that she couldn't face it without me.

I almost turned around but then I didn't, because Amy and I had been friends and kept in touch like forever. It wasn't a superficial relationship. She knew things about me no one else knew. And I thought I knew her but I was in for some surprises especially the Red Box but that didn't come up until later.

I stopped the car. Shook a few crumbs off my clothes, popped the trunk, and grabbed my bag. It was like replay. I felt nervous hoping her Granddad's ghost wasn't around. The door still squeaked and so did I. "Eeeeeeeek... " I said, as puzzled Amy stood before me.

"Caffeine!" I said and other stuff. "Come on in," she said. "I am so glad you came." She took out a Kleenex and I could see she was in grief. I'm so sorry about Grandmother Tess. The kitchen had been updated. We sat and talked and I won't bore you about all that but I just felt it was right for me to come.

Over ice cream, I know, it was chocolate ripple, she gave her news. "I can't believe it " she said. She left me this house. "So generous."

"Yes," I said, as a trickle of ice cream fell out of my mouth. She laughed at me. "You always were one for sweets." The next morning I said. "I am ready to help you here." So I got into the kitchen and you can't believe how many canned things she had put up were there.

Amy had disappeared into Grandma's bedroom. After a few hours I decided to see how she was doing. I opened the door Amy was sitting on the floor sobbing her heart out and between her legs there was a large Red Box.  I approached carefully. My friend seemed to be having a breakdown. She didn't notice me. I touched her shoulder and she only said the Red Box. "Do you want me to call a doctor, dial 911 or bring you a Coke?"

She choked one last sob and started to laugh. I got down on the floor and went along. Soon we were having histerics together and the Red Box just sitting there. I put out my arm and pulled it between us, then lifted the lid. "It's empty!" I said, of course it was, as we emptied it that Christmas.

I knew the Christmas she meant. It was the one that almost everyone was broke. Farmers at least had food. "Tell me about this Red Box," I said handing us both cokes.


Here is what happened. We were living here that awful year. My mother had no work. Grandma had her chickens and she sold the eggs. My Grandfather worked and worked but the crops were bad. I never knew people could be so poor and scared of their shadows.

People came knocking on our door saying they would take any kind of work. My grandfather just sent them away but I would see Grandma Tess go for a walk with her basket, and I just knew she was giving some of them our eggs, and I felt a little mad. Maybe we would not have enough. 

How little I knew. She started to sniffle.

It was three weeks before Christmas and I opened the door and here was this cardboard box and inside Grandma Tess opened it. "How lovely," she said. "I am going to fill this right to the top with presents for everyone."

She was so happy that she started to do a little dance and sang "Praise God from whom all blessings flow." You have to understand that my grandmother was a real Christian who put what she believed into action. She visited the sick. She was always baking a little extra cake of biscuits for someone.

Of course that year things had slowed down because she didn't have all her supplies. No one had. That is why I left her singing with the Red Box thinking that everyone was going a bit crazy. And we were. But, strange things started happening. I would hear the front door. Soft whispers. Then quiet. It was the door that made me think I was cracking up. I would fall back dreaming of chocolate cake with butter cream icing. 

In the morning, I would go down and have cereal with no butter and go to school with a slice of bread and an old apple.

Grandma Tess was mysterious in those weeks. She would have a neighbor take her to see the same sick friend who had been dying the week before and most suspiciously, she put a pretty red scarf around her worn coat. The red scarf meant she was up to something. I was afraid she had started a life of crime.



I tried to tell my mother and she burst out laughing. Your grandmother is the most generous woman in the world. Who else would take all that on, after he left her, the way he did. And that was all she would say.

The red scarf disappeared. I knew it was made of Scottish wool and one of her most cherished items. But Grandma's happiness continued and it was contagious. We all just stopped being afraid.

People from church brought in a large Christmas tree and we made popcorn chains and got out ornaments. The radio was turned on and we sang along and got merry. The fire made a special glow. I felt warm inside and out.


It was only a week to Christmas, Grandma Tessa looked tired. I even saw her sleep in the afternoon with her Bible on her lap. The night before Christmas, we had chicken soup and there were no presents under the tree. "Never mind, my dear," my mother said, "we have each other."



Well, I did mind but did not voice anything out loud. Early the next morning, I did smell something baking. When I walked into the kitchen, there was this Red Box and beside it was a big chocolate cake with icing. "Merry Christmas!" Grandma said, "Please take the Red Box and put it under the tree." 

By the time Amy finished, I was crying like a baby.


Thursday, March 19, 2020

Taking the Right Attitude

Dear Readers,
I absolutely believe that being still and bring more aware of God right now is important for each of us. (See previous post.)

As that is put into place in your life and even if it is new to you, spending time in quiet and Bible meditation will help you more than you can know.

Also, I want to add some very practical things to help you endure however long this might take.

We need to examine how our own attitude is about our situation. Change is never easy. So many closed doors that used to be open.

Here are some suggestions
Call on the phone and have a leisurely visit with a friend or family member.
Set the time up ahead. Maybe these are people you only send a holiday card to. Now is the time to share and help each other by listening and praying for each other.

If your attitude is all BLACK AND BLUE over what is happening, you need to change your focus.

Do some things you like to do. If you can't exercise in the normal way, you can still walk, or jog outside or just exercise in house. When we were snowed in a few years ago, a neighbor who regularly walked 3 miles a day, changed her program. She walked inside her own house. Of course, she drove her husband a bit crazy.

Rather than think. "I am stuck. Can't fly. Can't etc," start to think about what can I do here in my place. Maybe it isn't creative like writing or art but if that is something you have thought about, maybe this would be a time to explore. Maybe you have wanted to try a new recipe that took hours. Go for it! You have time.

Kids thrive on attention. You can now read more than a bedtime story. Or, if you like music, you can enjoy an opera or symphony or entire album.

I have found music a real help in keeping the mind positive. And remember the old fashioned letter? Why not write a really good one to someone at this time. So get out the old quill pen and ink pot!

You can change your attitude, but you are the only one who can do that. 
Let's help each other by showing our love and concern.

Keep safe and love each other,
Joyce Dueker

Keep Your Focus

Let's face it. If the last few weeks haven't rattled you. You must be dead.

Yes. A little C-19 virus has become the prime culprit that has set off a crazy volatile world. This has caused within a short period of time world wide trouble and distress.


In America, for now, it is somewhat stressful. There is a toilet paper shortage in grocery stores. We are not used to empty shelves are we? We are used to having it all when we want it. But, that little virus has caused people to fear and stockpile.


The stock market has taken a swan dive into an empty pool. Trillions of values have been lost. Painful to say the least. Good companies are struggling. The government is trying to pump money in. The chaos is scary.

Workers have been told. "Go home and work there. Children have been told "Go home. School is closed." The poor have been told. "Sorry, no job here for you."

I do not really need to go on. We are all living in this new war-virus zone world of fear and uncertainty. These certainly are our enemies.

David, in the Bible, had to run and hide from Saul who had sent out people to kill him. He had very real enemies, but David had a vital relationship to God. What did he do when he was in distress? David – Cried out to God. "In my distress I called upon the Lord, and cried unto my God....my cry came before him even to his ears,"

Read Psalm 18. What happened after that?  Click the link and see for yourself!

The way to get through this is certainly the path of faith in the Lord who wants us to praise him as know him as "my rock and my fortress" also "my deliverer" and the God who is deserving of our praise as David knew him.

Have we neglected our God and forgotten that He alone is our strength and help in times of trouble?

Thursday, February 27, 2020

Be Still and Hear the Voice of the Lord!

We live in a very noisy world. It honks at us, demands speed from us, robs us our centering stillness.

This world is filled with words. We are inundated with one wave of information after another and hardly can stop the flow.

The Bible says. "Be still and know that I am God." It is our job to find stillness in this world today.
We could go for a walk without any phone on us.
We could listen to music, especially classical, without words.
We could get up early before the noise starts and spend time in quiet.
We could find a way to be still if we really tried and valued stillness.


It is our job to "BE STILL". If we have lost the most important voice of the Lord we must train ourselves to tune out and tune in.

Jesus also withdrew to pray. How much so do we, his sheep, or his wandering sheep, or his lost sheep, need to feed ourselves in the balm of stillness?

Monday, December 9, 2019

What is Christmas?

Lots of things are attached to the real Christmas. It is like a Chinese box set. You take it apart piece by piece until you get to the center.

There are so many traditions. Eating special food. Family gatherings and eating more food. The smells of the season. Christmas trees. Baking cookies. Soapy romantic comedies like my favorite; While You Were Sleeping, set in Chicago with Sandra Bullock.


The sounds of Christmas. The rustling of paper as presents are wrapped. The joy of carols being sung. The doorbell ringing. The warmth of Christmas with decorations everywhere. Christmas parties and gatherings.


Christmas unfortunately in its outer box has lots of pressures and expectations but not much of a core. It is an empty box. So after all the food and the festivity, the presents are unwrapped and you have that feeling. Something is off!

That is because you need to keep taking the Russian babooshka boxes apart until you find the real Christmas. Download a Bible and Read Luke, chapters one and two. It relates the story not so well known these days of Mary, Joseph and their trip to pay taxes in Bethlehem.

While they were there in the city of Bethlehem she brought forth her baby and he was called Jesus. She "wrapped him in swaddling clothes, and laid him in a manger..."


Meanwhile shepherds in the field were guarding the sheep when "...the angel of the Lord came upon them, and the glory of the Lord shown round about them: And they were afraid."

There is much more inside the last box for you, but you must take your time and think about this story. What is Christmas? Or should the real question be —

Who is Christmas?


Friday, December 6, 2019

What Christmas Actually Means

God is after you. He knows where your story is. He knows your deepest needs, longings and hurts. He knows you feel far away. 

BUT..... His love is infinite. He does not want to punish you for the wrongs you have done. He wants to forgive you for every single thing.

Jesus as a baby with Mom and Dad, Mary, Joseph and the three wise men.
The Lord's love is relentless. He gave his only son, Christ Jesus, from heaven to earth. As a baby, Jesus grew up and went about doing good. He had no sin but was punished by death on a cross. His blood poured down. His side was pierced. In agony, he cried out... "FATHER, FORGIVE THEM FOR THEY KNOW NOT WHAT THEY DO!"

Jesus died on the cross for our sins.
Jesus died on the cross so that our sins would be forgiven. This is an amazing gift. No one else could give this gift because only God can forgive sins. As such we also need to forgive others too.

When you get a wonderful unexpected gift, your only response is to say, "THANK YOU!"

Jesus came down from heaven to this dark, dirty and estranged world. GOD WAS IN CHRIST RECONCILING THE WORLD TO HIMSELF. Believe and receive this! For you will have the gift of PEACE within you. This is the proof of the Father's forgiveness and acceptance of you. 

Say this special prayer:
Thank you God for sending Jesus Christ of Nazareth to us. Thank you Jesus for dying on the cross and shedding his blood for the forgiveness of all my sins. Thank you God that your love is relentless. I receive you Lord Jesus into my life. I am trusting you to save me now.

Wednesday, November 6, 2019

More to Thanksgiving than just food

Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays because it does not have to be complicated. It can be, of course, all about the food and how the table looks. Food is important and being together with family and friends is certainly an American tradition. A Thanksgiving prayer is also part of that time with families.

The psalmist writes in Psalm 95. 
"Let us come before his presence with Thanksgiving..."

When believers give thanks it is not a tradition and hopefully not meaningless. What struck me is that true Thanksgiving is from the heart and ushers us into the presence of God.

Years ago we were invited to a Thanksgiving party. The couple had been renting for a number of years and this was the first year in their own home. As we stood in a circle of family before the meal the woman offered the most heartfelt prayer to God for their home. Why do I still remember this years later? Because suddenly we were all in the presence of the Lord!

Well, back to the picture of family, friends, and lots of food on a festive table with all the best.
What if we changed that picture?
Maybe a fire burned up their home?
Maybe family is elsewhere?
Maybe the money is not in pocket to feed the children? Maybe the rent went up, the car broke down, etc. How could there be Thanksgiving in poor circumstances? It is very difficult without a good support system.


The church needs to reach out with compassion. This Thanksgiving, Verbo Family Services in Redwood City, CA will extend itself to feed 500 families. This is a faith work started by Pastor Orlando Cardona and wife, Patty, our president, shortly after they arrived from Guatemala.

Now the church has grown from a small space to a large rented and refurbished warehouse. This Thanksgiving the church will become a gathering for 500 from many places. 500 people will sit down together and hear a message of hope because when God is really present there is always hope and help.

Imagine... A family enters. A mother and her twin boys about five, and another girl about 8. They have no food at home so all that happens here, will be remembered by them. Will their hearts be filled along with their stomachs? Will there be many Thanksgivings going up to God in this place? Yes and Yes again!


Look around. The poor, the hungry, the lost are all gathered together to eat. Yes, to eat and eat lots of everything. They also will be fed in their souls.

This is a welcoming place, a healing oasis in a mountain of human need. And yet, there will be music, laughter, and joy from above as the church ministers to the real needs of the people in this place.

Happy Thanks Giving and May You Enter into His Presence!